THE COMPELLING SELF
FAQ

Questions, answered.

Is this a subscription?

No. It's a one-time purchase with an instant download, and the files are yours to keep.

Which edition should I choose?

Choose the style and self-care guidance that fits you. The Art of Presence covers menswear, grooming and facial hair; The Art of Radiance covers personal style, outfit formulas, self-care and a boundaries worksheet. Everything else is complete in both.

Do I need both editions?

No. Each edition includes The Science of Connection and is complete on its own.

Do I need to be on dating apps?

No. Profile pages are optional; everything else applies to meeting people anywhere.

Do I need a paid AI subscription?

No. The 16 prompts work with free AI assistants, and every exercise can be completed without AI.

Will this guarantee more matches or dates?

No. It helps you improve your preparation, presentation, communication and decisions. Outcomes depend on many things no product controls.

Can I type into the worksheets?

Yes. Most lines and checkboxes are fillable in Adobe Acrobat Reader, Apple Preview and most browsers. Every page also prints cleanly in black and white.

Is the content inclusive?

The two editions are written for men and women. The connection, communication and safety framework applies to everyone, whatever their orientation.

Can I share the files?

They're licensed for your personal use. Please don't share or resell them.

What's your refund policy?

Because files are delivered instantly, we don't usually refund after download, but if a file is faulty or not as described, contact us within 14 days and we'll fix it or refund you. Your statutory rights are unaffected.

How do I get help?

Reply to your Gumroad receipt or see our Contact page. We reply within two business days.